Be Still Momma

"Mom! Don't yell at me" uttered my three foot, blue eyed, baby face boy.
He looked up at me, bottom lip half out, wrinkled his brow and sighed. Frowns and watery eyes...

My world stops.

The chaos continues.
The water in the sink is running, the pasta boiling over, brothers fighting over a Lego man and all my spinning plates are about to come crashing down.

Crash they do. 

I'll pick them up later.
This moment matters.

I bend down. Eye to eye.
I put my hands on his shoulders and I say, "Sorry I yelled at you buddy but no one is listening to mommy and it makes me sad."

Raising my voice happens more than I like it to in these parts. I am embarassed to admit it. 

Let's be honest moms, when we feel we are unheard, a louder voice seems to be the obvious choice. Seems to be.
It's not.
It just makes things escalate. Escalate quickly. 
It's like we are standing in the very middle of a loud, crashing tornado and crying for help. Scream!!! Somebody hear me! Somebody listen! All the while our kiddos are doing the very same thing. Of course they cannot hear us. Of course.

Our job is to be the steady.
To be the calm. 
To show them the peace of Jesus. The Jesus who calms the storms with His whisper, "be still."
Be still momma, be still.
Be still before you open your mouth. Before your words hurt.
Let Jesus still your about to bubble over with anger heart. 

I'm right there with you momma. Right there in the nitty, gritty moment where you shake your fists in despair for what on earth will work to get these kiddos to listen to the words coming from your mouth. Right there.
Will there ever come a day when we don't yell? Maybe. But I am focusing on today. Be still before you speak. Send them to time out, their rooms, or get down eye to eye. Before those words come pouring from your mouth into those tiny souls, be still. Every day should get easier. Every time they see you react calmly, they learn how to do the same. 
Let's learn this together, day by day. Be still.

Mark 4:39 says, "He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves,“Quiet. Be still!” Then the wind died down and it was completely calm." 
Proverbs 5 says, "A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire."
Psalm 46 says, "Be still and know that I am God."


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