August 18, 2015
July 29, 2015
You just had a baby 5 months ago. You back to yourself yet?
No. Heck no.
So why does everyone expect this?
Maternity leave is over. Lose that weight, go back to work, do all the laundry and dishes while you nurse that babe every two hours on the treadmill with siblings hanging off you. Come on- get back to it girl.
New motherhood should be a much gentler, calmer transition don't you think?
Surrounded in grace, support and peacefulness. It should be slow and calm.
I want to reject society's pull for me to jump back into my old self when I'm not the same.
The transition to life with a new baby is joyfully traumatic--like driving in a new place, in a new car, with no directions and you have a crying baby in the car. You are both learning the road, adjusting mirrors, getting to know each other and how to make it through the day without crashing. In my case, I also have three loud tinies farting and throwing fits in the back seat. It is physically exhausting, mentally draining, hormonally challenging, and anxiety ridden all wrapped up in beauty the first year or so after a baby is born. Most days I am just surviving the day. I know it's just a season. I know I won't be so very tired, weary, stressed and overwhelmed soon. I know.
Until then, you and I are here.
Until then, bask in the glory of those lovey eyes and chunky thighs that require every moment of your attention.
Until then, encourage the mommas of not just newborns.
Give them a pass on calling you, going out past dark, or having the energy to be a great friend. I give you a pass momma. I give you grace.
I know you want to call, you want to go, you think about your friends all the time. You want to be back to your old walking around without a baby on your hip, milk leaking, or the sound of crying. You want just 3 minutes alone in silence. I know.
Take care of yourself. Hang out with Jesus and let Him restore your weary heart tonight. It is messy but you are growing into a beautiful momma. Just beautiful. It is a slow, gentle process refinement. Don't let others blind expectations of you overwhelm you. You are not failing. The beginning is just a time where you feel like you are because this love is so new and bright and all-consuming. The schedules are unending. You cannot be everything to everyone all the time. It's okay to say no to others when you are overwhelmed. Be gentle on yourself momma. Grace upon grace. You just had a baby 5 or 9 or 15 months ago. The truth is, you and I will never be the same. I'm okay with that.
Until then, whisper Jesus.
"The bless you and keep you; the make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the turn his face toward you and give you peace.” Number 6:24-26 A Priestly Blessing
Honestly with love,
July 20, 2015
Of course I have written many articles for the lovely Twiniversity (see here) but this is a new level. I am humbled and amazed quite honestly.
Would you check it out? Sharing is caring ;)
Click here to see the magazine article on page 33.
It is a funny little piece about morning meltdowns. Something I know NOTHING about.
Honestly with love,
July 2, 2015
Practically speaking, our husbands ought to ask how they can help us in our day. We ought to trade places with our husbands once in a while to each gain perspective. We ought to date each other. We ought to look for good in our role like Daniel Tiger says, "if something seems bad, turn it around and find something good." The good, the good is your are growing sister. The good is you get to be your kids soft place to fall. Their confidant. You cannot be replaced as their momma. The good is, you have a sweet husband on your team. So as painful and jealousy inducing it may be, let the sanctification happen. Relax. Enjoy the small moments and let Jesus be the vitamin D for your bones- growing you and strengthening you into more, into better. There, as you lose your old, jealous life, you will find your new one.
Honestly with love,
PS- Husbands-- I hope you read this, feel heartfelt compassion for your wife's servants heart and act in service to her in any way you possibly can. :)